بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم الحمدُ للهِ ربِّ العالمين والصلاةُ والسلامُ على رسوله الأمين

أما بعد

فالسلام عليكم و رحمة الله

Rasulallah, salallahu ‘alayhi wasallam, stated in the authentic hadeeth found in Saheeh Muslim, “Breastfeeding forbids what is forbidden through blood relations.”  Meaning, just as you’re forbidden from marrying your sister, you’re also forbidden from marrying any other girl whom your mother breastfed.

Al Sheikh Abdil Muhsin Ubaykaan is a fairly senior scholar in Saudia, hafidhahullah.  He drew a lot of controversy after he stated that non-mahram men who regularly interact with a woman should drink from her breast milk so as to alleviate the prohibition of free-mixing between them.  According to Gulf News he said,

“The man should take the milk, but not directly from the breast of the woman.  He should drink it and then he becomes a relative of the family, a fact that allows him to come into contact with the women without breaking Islam’s rules about mixing.”  He later clarified, “The fatwa is only for those who live in the house or need to get in often.”

So is this a completely strange opinion?  Nope.

Sheikh ul Islam ibn Taymiyya, rahimahullah, held a similar opinion.  He stated that not any adult can breastfeed like this.  It is only allowed in situations where there is an absolute need for it and the man must interact with the woman regularly.  Aisha, radhiAllahu ‘anha, Ibn Hazm, Ibn al Qayyim and al Shawkaani rahimahumullah also held this opinion and its primarily based on the following:

  • An incident reported in Saheeh Muslim shows that Sahla bint Suhail went to Rasulallah, salallahu ‘alahi wasallam, and said that her husband had a male slave whom he freed, Saalim, and always came to visit them, but her husband would feel uncomfortable having him come over due to the presence of his wife.  Rasulallah, salallahu ‘alayhi wasllam, ordered that Saalim drink from her breast milk so that they become mahaarim and her husband would no longer feel uncomfortable or angry.

Now, the main difference of opinion amongst the ulama is based on whether or not the one being breastfed needs to be two years old or younger.  Those who hold the opinion that he does need to be two years old or younger are the majority and they include Imam Abu Haneefah, Imam Maalik and Imam al-Shaafi’i.  Their evidences are the following:

  1. The 33rd ayah in Surat al Baqarah which is interpreted to mean that valid/complete breastfeeding is only up to two years. So any breastfeeding done on a child significantly older than two years old has no effect.
  2. The hadeeth in Saheeh Bukhari and Muslim which states, “Breastfeeding is effective when the baby relies on the breastfeeding of the mother.”
  3. The hadeeth in Sunan Abi Dawood, “…the milk that will build the bones and make the meat on the bones…” Though there is confusion as to whether or not this is a hadeeth of Rasulallah, salallahu ‘alayhi wasallam, or merely a statement of Ibn Masood, radhiAllahu ‘anhu.

Another condition of breastfeeding that needs consideration is the quantity of feedings.  There are two predominant opinions:

  1. One suckling is enough to change the relationship:
    • This opinion is held by Abdullah ibn Masood, Abdullah ibn Abbas, Abdullah ibn Umar, Sayeed ibn Musayyib, Imam Maalik and Imam Abu Haneefah.
    • This is based on the fact that a number wasn’t specified in the Quran as to how many breastfeeding sessions need to be completed.  Therefore, they say that merely one feeding is sufficient.
  2. There needs to be at least five separate breastfeeding sessions to change the relationship:
    • This opinion is held by Aisha, Imam al Shaafi’I, Ibn Hazm and it’s the strongest opinion held by the Hanabilah.
    • This is based on the very strong hadeeth in Saheeh Muslim in which Aisha states that the Quran was abrogated from ten breastfeeding sessions to five.

So what’s the conclusion?  All I can say is, don’t be quick to judge the fatwa of a sheikh of the caliber of al Sheikh Abdil Muhsin Ubaykaan, especially if you don’t know jack-diddly about your religion compared to him.

والحمد للّه أولا وآخراً. والله وليّ التوفيق وصلى اللّه على نبينا محمد وعلى آله وصحبه وسلم

و جزاك الله خيرا علي حسن المتابعة  و حياكم الله

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Khutbah- Time

26Mar10

إن الحمد لله نحمده ونستعينه ونستغفره ونعوذ بالله من شرور أنفسنا ومن سيئات أعمالنا من يهده الله فلا مضل له ومن يضلل فلا هادي له وأشهد أن لا إله إلا الله وحده لا شريك له وأشهد أن محمدا عبده ورسوله يا أيها الذين آمنوا اتقوا الله حق تقاته ولا تموتن إلا وأنتم مسلمون

يا أيها الناس اتقوا ربكم الذي خلقكم من نفس واحدة وخلق منها زوجها وبث منهما رجالا كثيرا ونساء واتقوا الله الذي تساءلون به والأرحام إن الله كان عليكم رقيبا

يا أيها الذين آمنوا اتقوا الله وقولوا قولا سديدا . يصلح لكم أعمالكم ويغفر لكم ذنوبكم

ومن يطع الله ورسوله فقد فاز فوزا عظيما

أما بعد

قُلْ إِنَّ الْمَوْتَالَّذِي تَفِرُّونَ مِنْهُ فَإِنَّهُ مُلَاقِيكُمْ ثُمَّ تُرَدُّونَ إِلَى عَالِمِالْغَيْبِ وَالشَّهَادَةِ فَيُنَبِّئُكُم بِمَا كُنتُمْ تَعْمَلُونَ

Say (to them): “Verily, the death from which you flee will surely meet you, then you will be sent back to (Allâh), the All-Knower of the unseen and the seen, and He will tell you what you used to do.” (Al-Jumu’ah 62:8)

Death is one of the only guarantees in life.

Most of those who walked this earth and breathed its air a hundred years ago are now buried in the ground, being either punished or  rewarded.

And if Allah had given them a long life and they’re still with us today, they only live in pain and suffering, slowly crawling towards what Allah had promised to every living thing, death.

كُلُّ نَفْسٍ ذَائِقَةُ الْمَوْتِ ثُمَّ إِلَيْنَا تُرْجَعُونَ

Everyone shall taste the death. Then unto Us you shall be returned. (Al-‘Ankabut 29:57)

And that is one of the imperfections of this life, that no matter what you can enjoy, no matter how much fun you can have and no matter how much money you can gain, it will all eventually come to an end, and you will eventually end up buried under ground with two things alone:

Your good deeds and sadaqah jaariyah, ongoing charities.

And how many times did people of the past, as well as the people of today fool themselves into thinking that our meeting with Allah will never happen, and that if it does happen, we’ll be safe and sound and should have nothing to worry about?

An example of these people is found in surat Yunus where Allah,

هُوَ الَّذِي يُسَيِّرُكُمْ فِي الْبَرِّ وَالْبَحْرِ حَتَّى إِذَا كُنتُمْ فِي الْفُلْكِ وَجَرَيْنَ بِهِم بِرِيحٍ طَيِّبَةٍ وَفَرِحُواْ بِهَا جَاءتْهَا رِيحٌ عَاصِفٌ وَجَاءهُمُ الْمَوْجُ مِن كُلِّ مَكَانٍ وَظَنُّواْ أَنَّهُمْ أُحِيطَ بِهِمْ دَعَوُاْ اللّهَ مُخْلِصِينَ لَهُ الدِّينَ لَئِنْ أَنجَيْتَنَا مِنْ هَـذِهِ لَنَكُونَنِّ مِنَ الشَّاكِرِينَ

He it is Who enables you to travel through land and sea, till when you are in the ships and they sail with them with a favourable wind, and they are glad therein, then comes a stormy wind and the waves come to them from all sides, and they think that they are encircled therein, they invoke Allâh, making their Faith pure for Him Alone, saying: “If You (Allâh) deliver us from this, we shall truly be of the grateful.” (Yunus 10:22)


فَلَمَّا أَنجَاهُمْ إِذَا هُمْ يَبْغُونَ فِي الأَرْضِ بِغَيْرِ الْحَقِّ يَا أَيُّهَا النَّاسُ إِنَّمَا بَغْيُكُمْ عَلَى أَنفُسِكُم مَّتَاعَ الْحَيَاةِ الدُّنْيَا ثُمَّ إِلَينَا مَرْجِعُكُمْ فَنُنَبِّئُكُم بِمَا كُنتُمْ تَعْمَلُونَ

But when He delivered them, behold! They rebel (disobey Allâh) in the earth wrongfully. O mankind! Your rebellion (disobedience to Allâh) is only against your ownselves, – a brief enjoyment of this worldly life, then (in the end) unto Us is your return, and We shall inform you that which you used to do. (Yunus 10:23)

In these ayaat Allah gives you the example of people who go sailing in the sea during calm winds, and when a storm comes in, threatening their lives, they turn sincerely and humbly to Allah begging Him for rescue.

But when Allah does save them and bring them to safety, they continue to live a life of rebellion and disobedience to Allah, so Allah warns all of us by telling us our baghy (rebelling upon something against this religion and insisting on it) is only harming our own selves and we will be judged one day.

As Rasulallah, salallahu ‘alayhi wasallam, has told us, we will be questioned about many things on the Day of Judgment, the very first of which will be al-Salaah.

Indeed, the importance of Salaah can never be overstated for it is what separates us from the kuffar, and it prevents us from committing great evil deeds, and it is the one criteria that Rasulallah, salallahu ‘alayhi wasallam, said, “The first matter that the slave will be brought to account for on the Day of Judgment is the salaah. If it is sound, then the rest of his deeds will be sound. And if it is bad, then the rest of his deeds will be bad.”

And verily, you will always find those who are negligent in their salaah being confused about their Lord, being slaves to their desires, belittling and easily falling into major sins, and in the end, when they shall return to Allah, they will find a severe punishment,

فَخَلَفَ مِن بَعْدِهِمْ خَلْفٌ أَضَاعُوا الصَّلَاةَ وَاتَّبَعُوا الشَّهَوَاتِ فَسَوْفَ يَلْقَوْنَ غَيًّا

Then, there has succeeded them a posterity who have given up As-Salât (the prayers) [i.e. made their Salât (prayers) to be lost, either by not offering them or by not offering them perfectly or by not offering them in their proper fixed times, etc.] and have followed lusts. So they will be thrown in Hell. (Maryam 19:59)

The fact that you WILL be brought back to Allah to be questioned about your life should be enough of an incentive to spend your time as beneficially as possible.

Hasan al Basri, one of the early Muslim scholars said about the Salaf, “I saw those people and how they were more cautious about how they spent their time than about their money.”

Likewise, ibn al Jawzi wrote in his book, Talbees Iblees,

“How many of the Jews or Christians have considered in their hearts love for Islam. But Iblees always hinders them. He says to them, ‘Take your time and think it over’ and they postpone their conversion until they die as unbelievers. In the same way the one who is disobedient to Allah postpones his repentance. He sets his sights on his desires and he hopes he will repent later.

How many are determined to do something and then they postpone it? Shaytaan will not stop making people love laziness and procrastinaiton and he’ll make the person rely on nothing but hopes and dreams.”

Likewise, one of the early scholars of Islam said, “Beware of procrastinating. It is the greatest of the soldiers of shaytaan.”

So you must ensure that your time is used efficiently and is not wasted.

Indeed, with the technology we have these days, it is very easy for us to either make time fly, or to squeeze as much benefit as possible out of every minute.

You have millions of websites you can go to and waste your time researching the most useless of matters, watching videos that have absolutely no benefit, looking at everyone’s myspace and facebook profiles, chit chatting endlessly about the most useless of things,

Or, you can visit the numerous Islamic websites available and listen to beneficial lectures, hundreds of different Quran reciatations, read an endless amount of books including the Quran, learn any language you can think of, go to chat rooms hosted by true Islamic scholars, and you can research contemporary fataawa to learn how to apply your religion and make the most of your time.

SECOND PART

Rasulallah, salallahu ‘alayhi wasallam, said, “Make the most of five things before five, your life before your death, your good health before you become sick; your free time before you become busy; your youth before you grow old; and your wealth before you become poor.”

The fact of the matter is, on the day of Judgment, we will realize that our life here passed by as if it was just one day or even part of a day,

كَأَنَّهُمْ يَوْمَ يَرَوْنَهَا لَمْ يَلْبَثُواإِلَّا عَشِيَّةً أَوْ ضُحَاهَا

The Day they see it, (it will be) as if they had not tarried (in this world) except an afternoon or a morning. (An-Nazi’at 79:46)

So make the most of your time for surely it won’t be long before you look back on your years here and regret every minute you didn’t fully utilize to benefit yourself or those around you.

والحمد للّه أولا وآخراً. والله وليّ التوفيق وصلى اللّه على نبينا محمد وعلى آله وصحبه وسلم


بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم الحمدُ للهِ ربِّ العالمين والصلاةُ والسلامُ على رسوله الأمين

أما بعد

فالسلام عليكم و رحمة الله

There was a man with whom I once debated on a matter of fiqh.  He was a jaahil who hadn’t studied anything about his religion.  His secular studies far outweighed his studies in Islam, and he didn’t even know the meaning of the ayaat he recited in his salaah.  Instead of basing his arguments on textual evidence and guidance from Allah, Rasulallah salallahu ‘alayhi wasallam and the Sahaabah, he based it on logic, common sense and cultural practices.  (Note:  A jaahil’s logic and common sense amounts to nothing more than utter stupidity).  Moreover, he used his logic and common sense in an attempt to reject what I presented to him of ayaat, ahadeeth and the guidance of the Sahaabah.

After some time passed in which I haven’t spoken to him, he apologized to me for anything he said that may have offended me.  I responded with the following:

No doubt, as al Sheikh ibn Baaz rahimahullah said, speaking about Allah without knowledge is more severe than shirk.  This is based on the ayah that lists sins in order of severity:

قُلْ إِنَّمَا حَرَّمَ رَبِّيَ الْفَوَاحِشَ مَا ظَهَرَ مِنْهَا وَمَا بَطَنَ وَالإِثْمَ وَالْبَغْيَ بِغَيْرِ الْحَقِّ وَأَن تُشْرِكُواْ بِاللّهِ مَا لَمْ يُنَزِّلْ بِهِ سُلْطَانًا وَأَن تَقُولُواْ عَلَى اللّهِ مَا لاَ تَعْلَمُونَ

Say: “(But) the things that my Lord has indeed forbidden are Al­Fawâhish (great evil sins, every kind of unlawful sexual intercourse, etc.) whether committed openly or secretly, sins (of all kinds), unrighteous oppression, joining partners (in worship) with Allâh for which He has given no authority, and saying things about Allâh of which you have no knowledge.” (Al-A’raf 7:33)

We didn’t merely have a disagreement in fiqh where each side bases his argument on ayaat, ahadeeth and the Sahaabah.  Rather, you chose to argue with logic and a severe lack of guidance and understanding.  I have said all I need to say to you and more in our past discussion.

You shouldn’t seek my forgiveness for getting me angry.  I am angry only because you have transgressed your limits in regards to Allah and His religion.  If you prove your repentance from that and have sought Allah’s forgiveness for what you have done, then I would no longer be angry with you.

I am not angry with you due to your violating my rights, but I am angry with you because you violated the rights of Allah.  You spoke about His religion with insufficient knowledge, you made rulings about His religion without knowing or even giving the proper evidences and even after your errors were made clear to you, you still insisted on your position.

So there are some who befriend anyone and everyone.   Then there are people like myself who try to keep the words of Rasulallah, salallahu ‘alayhi wasallam, in mind at all times when choosing friends,

عَنْ أَبِي سَعِيدٍ الخُدْرِي رضي الله عنه عنَ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ قال : ( لا تُصَاحِبْ إِلا مُؤْمِنًا وَلا يَأْكُلْ طَعَامَكَ إِلا تَقِيٌّ

رواه الترمذي ( 2395 ) وأبو داود ( 4832 ) وصححه الألباني في  صحيح الترمذي

It was narrated from Abu Sa’eed al-Khudri radhiAllahu ‘anhu that the Rasulallah, salallahu ‘alayhi wasallam, said: “Do not keep company with anyone but a believer and do not let anyone eat your food but one who is pious.”

Narrated by al-Tirmidhi (2395)and Abu Dawood (4832); classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Tirmidhi.

وعَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ رضي الله عنه قَالَ : قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ : ( الرَّجُلُ عَلَى دِينِ خَلِيلِهِ فَلْيَنْظُرْ أَحَدُكُمْ مَنْ يُخَالِلُ ) .

رواه الترمذي ( 2378 ) وأبو داود ( 4833 ) وصححه الألباني في ” صحيح الترمذي ” .

It was narrated that Abu Hurayrah radhiAllahu ‘anhu said: Rasulallah, salallahu ‘alayhi wasallam, said: “A man will follow the way of his close friends, so let one of you look to whom he takes as a close friend.”

Narrated by al-Tirmidhi (2378) and Abu Dawood (4833). Classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Tirmidhi.

والحمد للّه أولا وآخراً. والله وليّ التوفيق وصلى اللّه على نبينا محمد وعلى آله وصحبه وسلم

و جزاك الله خيرا علي حسن المتابعة  و حياكم الله